LAUGH AT CRITICISM

Face it, criticism hurts. Hurt tells you to run away or stay and fight. Best way? Be grateful and decide for yourself to laugh it off or use it wisely.

Laughing at criticism

The  Happiness Gurus tell you “You are perfect just the way you are.”

They lie.

The makers of the classic movie Love Story believed  Love meant “never having to say you’re sorry.”

Another lie.

Remember, all  the sages across all the ages have bemoaned the fact that “Love is blind.”

Love may mean you never have to say you are sorry, but it also means you see the other person’s flaws as well as the good stuff.Virginia Satir, family therapist, believed  healthy relationships mean being able to tell each other who needed a deodorant.  Good to say the critical stuff kindly, but better to have it said; you can always make an amends if you say it mean.

EMOTIONAL FITNESS TiPS

Emotional Fitness tip one: Think about what matters.  Criticism only matters if fits you. That means you have to put aside emotions and think about yourself as if you were another person. Hard to do. The Rule of Three helps.  Than means wait until you have heard the same criticism at least three times and preferably from three different sources.

Emotional Fitness tip two:  Strengthen your self-soothing skills. Maybe it is time to buy my eBook about Creating Calm in Your Life. Minimally, learn these four Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises. 

PARENTING TIP

 Parenting tip one; Teach you child the rule of three.  That can start once your child starts walking by using Thomas Phelon’s One, Two, Three Magic. It really is magic in terms of disciplining.  In a nut shell, you give your child three chances to obey a rule, and then it is time out.

Parenting tip two: When the child is in third or fourth grade, talk directly about how to handle criticism.  At that point teach your child to respond in one of the following ways.

  1. “Thank you.”
  2. “I need to work on that.”
  3. “I am trying my hardest.”
  4. “I need time to think about what you are saying.”

Role play criticizing.    You be the critic and have your child practice saying the above you and s/he can figure out what to say when.

IMPROVE YOUR THINKING SKILLS NOW

DAILY PROMPT It’s a Text, Text, Text, Text World by Michelle W. How do you communicate differently online than in person, if at all? How do you communicate emotion and intent in a purely written medium?

Writing forces you to think a bit and that is practicing emotional fitness. Of course, some think little as they write so when angry don’t push send. Or do you disagree and think  “letting it all hang out” is more honest and best?

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Keep working to stay strong, I work hard to do the same . As noted above,  I am not perfect, no one is and this week;s post will be all about praising imperfection.

Remember’s sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Thank you.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

FREE POSTER COACHES 

Don’t think you can afford a life coach? Like a life coach, EFTI’s poster coaches inspire, teach, motivate, and reinforce thinking about what matters.  To use, print up in color and post there it will be seen often.  Poster Coaches can also be used at  Family Meetings to start a discussion about what matters or in a class room to encourage critical thinking.

Agree or disagree, comments are always welcomed.