Looking Reality in the Face – Part Four in the SMART Goal Series

Is your goal a dream that can become a reality?  Time to do a reality.  You might be humbled. I was.

Quote about the pain of reality.

If you have not been  following Emotional Fitness Training’s  SMART Goal Blog Series, start at the beginning by scrolling down to the end of this post and reading the ones you have missed. Then read on as this is the next step in  the series.

I am using this series as an exercise to set a SMART goal for Emotional Fitness Training, Inc. EFTI is  not where I want it to be.  I am now at the stage of my goal setting where I have to take a hard look at what is possible.r, if you are happy where you are and where you are going, you probably do not need to pursue setting a SMART goal. For those who feel the need, I hope following my journey will be useful.

On to what is involved in making certain your goal is realistic.  This involves asking if the necessary resources are available for meeting the goal.

If getting to your goal requires a specific talent, the talent is a resource you must possess. Want to be the next American Idol? You need to be able to sing magnificently. It also helps to be young and physically attractive. Although as one or two have shown, voice matters a bit more.

In terms of getting to my goal: my personal resources are as follows:

  1. I am a licensed therapist
  2. I  taught for long periods at two Ivy League Graduate Schools.
  3. Because I was a foster mother to 366 teens mostly in trouble with the law, I have been in the trenches as well as the Ivory Tower.
  4. I am a published author.
  5. I am passionate  about sharing knowledge.
  6. I have appeared on Oprah, as well as other t.v. and radio shows.
  7. I have given hundreds of well-received trainings and workshops.
  8. I have the ability to think critically.
  9. I am good at making things simple enough for most to understand.
  10. I love social media, have some devoted followers.
  11. I love writing and have no  problems finding stuff to write about.
  12. I am stubborn and that means I keep trying.

So why hasn’t Emotional Fitness produced more resources? Because resources are always balanced by barriers.  Here are my barriers.

  1. I am not passionate about making money. If fact I am a little wary of some of the things doing so  seems to require.
  2. I have dysgraphia which makes clean copies difficult. If you follow me on Facebook you will see lots of confusing mistakes as well as the time I spend editing posts to get rid of the mistakes.
  3. My dysgraphia also sees me spinning my wheels out of concern, a piece of writing is not even “good enough” let alone publishing perfect. I have a hundred almost there articles.
  4. Although I am computer literate, I have not mastered some of the skills needed to turn what I have done into properly formatted eBooks.
  5. I am on a limited and dwindling personal income. Mainly social security.
  6. I am nearing eighty years of age and all that goes with aging including brain problems and declining physical health.
  7.  Family and social life are as important to me as making EFTI a financial success, so I work to keep a balance between the two.
  8.  The competition in my chosen niche is fierce.

After looking at your resources and barriers, you have to ask yourself if your goal is realistic.  Use a five-point rating scale: 1 no chance; 2 if you win the lottery; 3 with a little bit of luck; 4. probable; and 5 more than possible.

Sad to say I come in at “If I win the Lottery.”

Sigh. So time to rewrite my goal, yet again. See you next time.


Thank you for all you do.  Thank me by remembering sharing is caring; so is liking, or commenting. Your caring keeps me going.




WordPress Daily Prompt suggested this: Ripped Into the Headline –  Write about something that happened over the weekend as though it’s the top story on your local paper.

Well, there are a lot of stories about not winning the billion dollar lottery. Which relates to my rating of the possibility of reaching my goal. Sigh, but I am going to keep buying a lottery ticket every week. I will also keep working on making EFTI more viable but more for the pleasure it gives than for the money I might make.


These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (www.emotionalfitnesstraining.com
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)


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