Be grateful for all you have been given as well as all you have been spared. Practicing gratitude is one of the easiest emotional fitness exercises. Practiced throughout the day improves your Emotional Intelligence.
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When you can say “Thank you” for all what has been given and what has been escaped, you are the master or mistress of gratitude. Here are the Emotional Fitness Training step leading to mastering gratitude.
Step one: Say “Thank you” when something sparks a new feeling in you. The feeling can be a good or bad feeling; your “Thank you” can be sincere or rote or even sarcastic. Just say the words.
The Emotional Fitness Training Poster Coach above reminds you to practice gratitude. Downloaded it free through December 1, 2013.
To use as a poster coach post where you will see it often throughout the day as a reminder of the all you have been given. For more instructions about how to practice any of the Twelve Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises visit this web page.
Step two: Work to make your “Thank you” sincere by cultivating an attitude of gratitude. An attitude of gratitude when bad things happen involves practicing acceptance. Easily done when good is visiting you; more difficult when bad things are happening to you. To me that means knowing that as the Buddhists believe “Life is suffering.” The Buddhists also believe “The source of all suffering is desire” – wanting what you want, not what life offers. For many this means reducing expectations of good.
An attitude of gratitude also means developing an explanation for why good and bad visits. The most common explanations involve matters of faith ranging from a belief in karma with its idea past lives determine the course of current lives to the belief in a God or Gods whose actions are designed to punish individual sins or teach individuals lessons.
Personally, I find the idea of all the bad that happens, particularly random acts of nature and life, as punishment distressing. I also realize many disagree with me. How do I explain when bad things happen, particularly to good people? Four ideas help me. Mainly, I believe most of what happens to people is only partly the consequences of their behavior. Much is luck or randomness. I do believe all that happens teaches something; I also believe miracles or special favors happen but for reasons we do not know or control. Finally, I believe the best lives are those based on being kind as well as being grateful.
You do not have to agree with me. Behavior matters more and when your beliefs lead to kindness, particularly to all people that is what matters.
A WORD PRESS’ DAILY PROMPT inspired this POST
Daily Prompt: Close Call Tell us about a bullet you’re glad you dodged — when something awful almost happened, but didn’t. Having lived to be 76 I have dodged any number of close calls. The first was contacting Rheumatic fever as a child, and then being saved by presence of penicillin in the medical professions’ bag of tools. Then, ten years ago I was found to have a platelet disorder, which has also been beaten by medicine’s advancing knowledge.
Now I am heading into the age stage known as “Frail Elderly” – a reality that makes it harder to always practice gratitude, but also more imperative to do so.
The existentialist say the fact that we have an awareness of death serves to increase our appreciation of life. In my personal experience that is mostly true; but it also increases pain and fear of more pain. The EFT poster accompanying this post acknowledge’s both. It will be available for free the week of for the next week at the EFTI Store.
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Thank you for all you do and as always stay strong.
Links and articles of interest
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
- The EFTI Store (eftistore.com)