Emotional Fitness Thoughts and Tip
Both my snorting laugh and nervous laugher create the illusion someone is laughing at you. Way too personal and commits the twisted thinking flaw known as “The Curse of Personal Knowledge.” That curse means you are not thinking, but using emotional reasoning, what you feel, not what is real.
Emotional fitness and emotional intelligence is all about not following your heart as so many of the happiness gurus preach. Remember that “Love is blind” and that warning includes gut feelings and intuition. The emotionally intelligent approach to passion feelings means partnering with your thinking cap before deciding what you need to do.
Emotional Fitness tip one: When a strong feeling tells you to act even in 911 situations thinking before acting remains wisest. The feelings created by 911 situations urge you to either run, fight; 911 situations also cause you to freeze and faint.
Minimally you have to think where to run if that is when your feelings urge running; when fighting is urged, you need to think if you can win.
Emotional Fitness tip two: If the problem is not so hot laughter, either yours or someone elses, thinking is definitely the first strategy. Four things worth thinking about when you are not sure about the meaning of laugher:
- Am I taking some thing personally that isn’t personal? This is particularly important for parents, teachers, and bosses to think about. Nervous laugher is only made worse when not understood.
- If it might apply to me personally, is it worth fussing about? The most extreme examples who want to kill political cartoonists making fun of their religion. Slightly less extremes are oversensitive feelings related to other people’s stupid, thoughtless, or prejudiced comments.
- Related to the above, but a bit different, you need to think if the other person thinks you are laughing at them. My snorting laughter needs explaining if there is any chance the person thinks I am laughing at them. Those who know me well understand my snorts. Those who don’t might need me to add to my snort. “Always gets me how some things are so predictably stupid.” or “Sorry, I laughed, it wasn’t at you, it was because life and others are sometimes so ridiculous it is laugh or cry.”
- If you feel action is required, then you absolutely must thinking about how to act wisely. That is the subject of my soon to released eBook – Think Your Way to the Good Life. Watch for its release so you can get a free sample.
No matter how busy you are, you need time outs to refresh and renew and a quick laugh often fills the bill. A rule do not indulge aloud in hurtful laughs. I laugh lots in my head, not always nice, but no real harm done as such laughs destroy my need to act. Another rule: When such laughs heat you up, do not indulge.
Even better is trying create laughs. Here’s today’s Free Poster Coach. Become a comedian:
As always, thank you for all you do to make the world around you more peaceful. Think of sharing this post as a way to practice kindness. All acts of kindness move the world a bit closer toward peace.
How does this post fit in with Today’s Daily Prompt Uncanned Laughter: A misused word, a misremembered song lyric, a cream pie that just happened to be there: tell us about a time you (or someone else) said or did something unintentionally funny.
The above answers this but with a more serious discussion.
LINKS OF INTEREST
- Nervous laughter (en.wikipedia.org)
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- The EFTI Store (eftistore.com)
- WordPress Daily Prompt (wordpress.com)
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