Emotional Fitness Thoughts and Six Tips
A recent study showed that those who embraced aging lived seven plus years longer than those who fought it. Lucky me with my un-dyed hair and wrinkled face and love of blogging.
I do dislike the media emphasis on youth. Youth is wonderful for the young, but trying to be young at a certain age betrays who you are in body and soul. We want to be who we are — as the old song sung by Sammy Davis notes “I Gotta Be Me.” Hiding part of who we are, stresses, denigrates, and erodes self-esteem.
Tip one: Attitude matters.
Tip two: Acceptance keeps attitude on track.
Tip three: Radical acceptance strengthens your ability to hold to a helpful attitude when trauma and other bad times visit. Radical acceptance is a three-step process:
- Accepting that reality is what it is.
- Accepting that the event or situation causing you pain has a cause.
- Accepting life can be worth living even with painful events in it.
Tip four: Doing something you love every day. Best of course is a job you love; next best time outside of a necessary but not so great job, to pursue what you do love that might mean a hobby or something as small as indulging in a hot fudge sundae. When it comes to hobbies research has found that creating anything from cookies to a carving to keeping a journal, or writing a letter adds to your Emotional Intelligence.
Tip five: Laugh and play lots. Play for the fun of it, winning should be secondary. If you are of a certain age, you might find some laughs on my Pinterest boards: Grannykat’s Cranky Shares or Aging Is Not For Sissies. You don’t have to be a member to visit those boards.
Tip six : Mission matters most: All the ancients and the more modern researches say a mission or over all purpose in life is vital to living your life your way. They also note that the mission to the good life remains basing your life on the Golden Rule. To learn more about this, get my eBook How To Know Your Mission To Reach Your Goals. Buy It Now for $3.03. Less than a movie and longer lasting. This one makes a great gift for those in college, in a job they hate, or feeling stuck in life.
Thank you for all you do
Remember to share all you find of value on the internet. All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.
Post Inspiration: This post was inspired by a WordPress Daily Prompt: Ancient.
Links of Interest
These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- The five components of emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)
- About Emotional Fitness Training (emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
- An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents (amazon.com)
Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much. Take their advice and mine carefully. Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart. Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others. As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.
Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors
If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here; I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what like me. Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability, Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense. If you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.