How To Grow Old Gracefully – Six EFT Tips To Help.

Cartoon about aging. Emotional Fitness Tips

Tip one: Face this Brute Fact – You will grow older, eventually get old, and if lucky very old.

Tip two: While growing older, remember what matters. What is that? Not what you own, but who you are at heart and how you act All the sages know that the happiest people are those who live lives of service.

Tip three: Set both a mission for your life, and SMART Goals for living the best everyday life possible. Get my ebook Know Your Mission So You Can Reach Your Goals . It costs less than a movie and lasts a lifetime.

Tip four: Honor the past. Learn its lessons and that includes the lessons your elders have learned and try to teach you.

Tip five: Risk the new. The older you grow, the more you stay with your known ways and thoughts. Not healthy. Minimally, try to learn something new each day.

Tip six: Strengthen your self-soothing skills.  For a quick introduction check out these Emotional Fitness Exercises. But also remember to laugh and play lots each day.

Post Inspiration: This post does not relates to this  WordPress Daily  Prompt: Hesitate.

However, too many people wait for good thing to happen instead of doing what they can to make their lives good. Better to risk than hesitate.

Go here to learn more about the Daily Prompts.

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.

Katherine

 

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much.  Take their advice and mine carefully.  Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart.  Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others.  As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.

Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors

If  you need perfect posts, you will not find them  here;  I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what  like me.  Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability,  Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense.  If  you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.

Feeling blue? Beaten Down? Six EFT Tips To Help.

Aging is for heroes and heroines, as I am learning. There used to be a psychiatric diagnosis called “Reactive Depression.” It meant something bad had happened that pulled you down. Aging can do that at least when loneliness, loss, or pain erode your well-being.

But life throws stones at everyone, so when you are down, you need to pull yourself up, and if you cannot do that, you need help from family, friends, or professionals.

Emotional Fitness Tips

Tip one: Face this Brute Fact – Life showers you with flowers, lemons, and rocks. Enjoy the flowers, make lemonadeade from the lemons, and get professional help when the rocks seriously bruise, cut deep, or break bones.

Tip two: Remember what matters. What matters is not what you own, but who you are at heart.  All the sages know that the happiest people are those who live live’s of service.  Practice kindness all the ways you can.

Tip three: Let others practice kindness by getting their help when you need it.  Asking for help is too often seen as a weakness, but it is quite the opposite. This is particularly true when it comes to seeking help from a mental health professional. If you are struggling, call the  National Suicide Prevention Lifeline ‘1-800-273-TALK (8255). They will help you think about the need for mental help services whether you are suicidal or not. Why they are call Suicide Prevention.

Tip four: When you seek help, look for a  professional who uses some form of on-going evaluation  process. Here is a form I developed for all staff and clients when I ran mental health crisis teams in NYCity  before during and after 9/11. My form is a variation of The Center For Clinical Excellence‘ evaluation forms. As I also wanted clients to have an account of what happened during my team’s work with them, the evaluation material was included in a Progress Note. Clients got a carbon copy of the note, the original was filed in the client’s medical chart. A note to evaluate and detail what happened when you visited an MD

Tip five: Set a SMART Goal for what you want from any service providers. Here is an EFT blog post about SMART Goals.

Tip six: Strengthen your self-soothing skills. For a quick introduction check out these Emotional Fitness Exercises. For a longer last lesson, buy EFT’s Self-soothing To Create Calm in Your Life. It still costs less than a Latte.

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.

Katherine

Post Inspiration: This post was relates to this  WordPress Daily  Prompt: Seriousness.

Go here to learn more about the Daily Prompts.

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much.  Take their advice and mine carefully.  Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart.  Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others.  As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.

Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors

If  you need perfect posts, you will not find them  here;  I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what  like me.  Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability,  Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense.  If  you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.

Thinking About What Matters – All Is A Gift

 A poem about Gratitude
Emotional Fitness Training Tip
The more you practice gratitude, the stronger you and others grow.

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.

Katherine

Post Inspiration: This post relates to this WordPress Daily Prompt:   Lovingly

Go here to learn more about the Daily Prompts.

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Victim or Survivor – Tips to Move Forward.

Zora Neale Hurston Quote
A victim is someone  injured, destroyed, or sacrificed under any of various conditions; a survivor is one who lives on and functions so as to prosper.
Emotional Fitness Training Tips
Tip one: Everyone is a victim in one way or another.
Tip two: Everyone hurts others in one way or another. 
Tip three: Everyone is a survivor in one way or another.
Tip four: Realize no matter how seriously you were injured, so have not been destroyed. Be grateful.
Tip five: Neither deny or dwell excessively on how you have been victimized.
Tip six: Let go of blame-blaming yourself or blaming another. Blaming mires you in victimhood. Own up to your mistakes; learn lessons; work to do better.
Tip seven: Forgive others their short comings. Forgiveness means giving the person, not the act. Criminal acts must be punished. Forgiveness does not require staying in contact with an abuser, loving some one who has done you harm. Forgiveness means not seeking personal revenge.
Tip eight: Strengthen your self-soothing skills. For a quick lesson check out these Emotional Fitness Exercises. For a longer last lesson, buy EFT’s Self-soothing To Create Calm in Your Life
Tip nine:  Do more of what offers hope and comfort. For some that may be attending religious services, for everyone, it means practicing kindness and pursuing change civilly through thoughtful civic actions.
Tip ten: Remember what matters, be grateful,  practice kindness.

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.

Katherine

Post Inspiration: This post relates to this WordPress Daily Prompt:   Overwhelming.

Go here to learn more about the Daily Prompts.

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much.  Take their advice and mine carefully.  Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart.  Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others.  As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.

Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors

If  you need perfect posts, you will not find them  here;  I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what  like me.  Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability,  Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense.  If  you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.