A GOOD WAY TO PLAY

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Strnghen your Emotional Intelligence. Learn play a musical instrument.

There are lots of ways to play. Playing a musical instrument is a good one. 

If you do not know how to play a musical instrument, remember your voice is one. Be not discouraged if your voice isn’t mellow; I sing in the shower and when driving alone in the car.

SOME FINAL WORDS

Practice kindness by reading, liking, commenting or sharing this post.  

Katherine

P.S. Think about buying one of my eBooks. They cost less than a latte, last longer, and are healthier.  Create Calm In Your Life is the newest. Then there is this one When Good Kids Get You In a Gotcha War which is now out in paperback.  

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

 

 

Don’t Think You Pray? Think Again

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How we all pray.

Prayers of gratitude, meaning a heart-felt thank you, are always answered, for they strengthen you.

SOME FINAL WORDS

Practice kindness by reading, liking, commenting or sharing this post.  

Katherine

P.S. Think about buying one of my eBooks. They cost less than a latte, last longer, and are healthier.  Create Calm In Your Life is the newest. 

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

 

 

CRITICIZING OTHERS AS DUMB OR STUPID?

Think you are smart?  Think again.  Think you are dumb?  Think again.

David Dunning and Justin Kruger of Cornell University researched people’s ideas about how smart or stupid they were. Their results were named for them. This is what they found:

The Dunning-Kruger effect (also known as Mount Stupid or Smug Snake) occurs when people fail to correctly assess their level of incompetence. Most tend to think they are more competent when completing a task than others completing the same task. Eventually, they consider themselves much more competent than everyone else. Watch the auditions for American Idol or America’s Got Talent to see the Dunning-Kruger Effect at work.

The reverse known as the Impostor Syndrome happens when very competent people underestimate their ability compared to others and live in fear of being found to be a fraud.

Emotional Fitness Tips

One: Assume your assessment of your smarts is probably biased and sometimes in one direction, sometimes in the opposite direction.

Two: Understand the many kinds of smarts: Here are the nine Howard Gardiner, Harvard Researcher, thought most important: 

  1. Bodily-kinesthetic (body smart)
  2. Existential (life smart)
  3. Interpersonal(people smart)
  4. Intra-personal (self smart)
  5. Logical-mathematical (number/reasoning smart)
  6. Linguistic (word smart)
  7. Musical (sound smart)
  8. Naturalist (nature smart)
  9. Spatial (picture smart)

Three: Add Emotional Intelligence, the ability to manage emotions and feelings, to Gardiner’s list.

Four: Remember what matters most: Not marks on a test or the letters after your name. These have value, but what matters more is behavior. The behavior that matters to most remains kindness and working to make the world a better place for all. 

Some Final Words

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Katherine

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SUFFERING? MAYBE, MAYBE NOT

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Suffering is a matter of perspective. Snow is loved by skiers and hated by the homeless. Some pray for rain, others curse it. Some moan and groan over a scratch, others endure getting a wound stitched up with a shrug and some laughs. Some starve themselves to get thinner, others die in the streets from hunger and poverty.

As the Irish noted, possibly during the famine, “Enough is a feast.” 

Suffering has some little talked about pleasures.  Sick or wounded enough and you can stay home avoiding work or school. Others seem to care more. You feel justified in doing less. These are called secondary gains by the mental health experts. 

RATING SCALES TAKE THE MAYBE OUT OF SUFFERING

Ten: writhing in pain unable to walk or talk while waiting for the ambulance to come and take you to the hospital.

Nine: waiting to be taken to the hospital by ambulance, but able to talk or sit up or even pace a bit 

Eight: need to see your doctor or a therapist because cannot do what needs doing

Seven: self-care needed, but nothing more

Six: Normal aches and pains accepted and endured while doing what you need to do. Okay to indulge in taking very good care of yourself. 

Five: No physical pain

Four: No emotional pain

Three: Okay all around

Two: Very good

One: You’ve won life’s lottery and more.

Strengthening your self-soothing skills strengthens your ability to stay strong when pain visits. My ebook Self-soothing To Create Calm In Your Life costs less than a latte is more soothing and lasts longer. 

SOME FINAL WORDS

Practice kindness by reading, liking, commenting or sharing this post.  

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.