WHY THIS: For some very complicated reasons beyond my control, my original Emotional Fitness Blog has vanished from the web. I am sure it is out there somewhere, but the links to it are broken.  I have been trying to resurrect some of it and came across this blog from the Virtual Writer.  As many of you know I was directing crisis teams in New York city when the towers fell and this was published remembering that event.

The Visual Writer, Dorian Scott Cole is some one I met on a post modern therapist internet list.  Scott published this Staying Strong News Letter to mark one of the 9/11 anniversaries.  I thought of saving it until then, but with James Holmes, the shooting in the Sikh temple and continuing war in the Middle East as evidence by the shooting of 15 Eygption border guards in Gaza,  I decided to  put it up now.   Just as surely as life goes on, it seems violence also goes on

Making Peace Series, The Voices of History; The Visual Writer, LLC.


 Jerome Kagan, Harvard reasearcher, in a study of morality in children found that across all cultures people wanted to be caring and fair.  Here’s the problem, being caring and fair did not extend to those outside the family or the tribe.

No matter what else is in the mix leading to violence, part of the hatred that allows people to kill other, particularly innocents remains defining people as “others.”  Most often others have something the killer wants, he feels outside of their circle of privilege.

I often quote Edwin Markham’s poem Outwitted.  Here it is again.

He drew a circle that shut me out
Heretic , rebel, a thing to flout.
But love and I had the wit to win:
We drew a circle and took him In !

Very hard to do, which is probably why the first murder in the Torah is one brother slaying another  brother.  Torah is also full of others stories that originate in family hatred.  Joesph and his brothers, Jacob and Esau, the dividing of the twelve tribes.  DNA studies are showing more and more that not only from the Middle East, but in many other parts of the world a unique markers proclaims a brotherhood many would like to dispute.  Nevertheless, all the wars in the world involve brothers killing brothers as strands of origin lead back to seven founding fathers and mothers.

DNA researcher Eric Lander reported this in the Nova special Cracking the Code of Life, “The genetic difference between any two people: one tenth of a percent. Those two, and any two people on this planet are 99.9 percent identical at the DNA level. It’s only one letter in a thousand difference.”

Also reported in the same program was that looking only at the DNA codes it would be practically impossible to tell an Asian from a black from a white.

The over-riding evidence is that we are one family and when we kill another we kill a family member.


Usually, this section lists tips for staying emotionally strong.  Somehow, it seems to me to list tips diminishes the difficulty of finding peace.  So instead, I will only list a few quotes.  The quotes will resonate with most of you, I know that because you read my constant plea for thinking about matters and for practicing kindness.  Hopefully the quotes will not only resonate with my regular readers but inspire a few others. The quotes:  Good reads quotes about peace:

Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that. 

Martin Luther King, Jr

When I say it’s you I like, I’m talking about that part of you that knows that life is far more than anything you can ever see or hear or touch. That deep part of you that allows you to stand for those things without which humankind cannot survive. Love that conquers hate, peace that rises triumphant over war, and justice that proves more powerful than greed.

Fred Rogers

Until he extends the circle of his compassion to all living things, man will not himself find peace.

Albert Schweitzer

Someday, after mastering the winds, the waves, the tides and gravity, we shall harness for God the energies of love, and then, for a second time in the history of the world, man will have discovered fire.

 Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

The first peace, which is the most important, is that which comes within the souls of people when they realize their relationship, their oneness with the universe and all its powers, and when they realize at the center of the universe dwells the Great Spirit, and that its center is really everywhere, it is within each of us.

Black Elk

We often think of peace as the absence of war, that if powerful countries would reduce their weapon arsenals, we could have peace. But if we look deeply into the weapons, we see our own minds- our own prejudices, fears and ignorance. Even if we transport all the bombs to the moon, the roots of war and the roots of bombs are still there, in our hearts and minds, and sooner or later we will make new bombs. To work for peace is to uproot war from ourselves and from the hearts of men and women. To prepare for war, to give millions of men and women the opportunity to practice killing day and night in their hearts, is to plant millions of seeds of violence, anger, frustration, and fear that will be passed on for generations to come.

Thich Nhat Hanh


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