Kindness matters. It is a well documented fact that being kind is important for maintaining emotional fitness, what others call mental health. Moreover, kindness is karma, it comes back to bless you.
I remember riding the subway in New York when a slightly disheveled man who was actively hallucinating war scenes entered. As he lurched around looking for a seat, many stepped away from him and a few left the care. My pride in being a caring person glued me to my seat. I did bury myself in one of the books that were my constant traveling companions. He lurched my way and sat next to me.
A short while later he asked me if I was a psychiatrist, “Why do you think that? I asked.
“You aren’t afraid of me.”
That started a conversation that lasted until my stop came. He was a veteran of “Nam” and on his way to his therapy group. He didn’t make a lot of sense in his ramblings, but I listened–that is what therapists do.
When I got up to leave, I said, “This is my stop.”
He said, “Thank you for listening, it helps.”
He made my day.
Emotional Fitness Training Kindness tips
Tip One: Stay Safe. If I had seen the same man lurching toward me on a deserted street, I would have acted differently. Protesting injustice and hatred is an act of kindness. Doing so in some countries can get you imprisoned, stoned, or killed.
Tip Two: Practice Deliberate Kindness. A great deal is made of random acts of kindness meaning mainly kindness extended to strangers. Worthy. At the same time too many forget to be kindest to their near and dear ones. Deliberate Kindness includes all.
Here are five ways you can practice both deliberate and random acts of kindness:
- Handout compliments to strangers and those you know.
- Say Thank You to all who serve and remember garbage men often keep us healthier than MDs.
- Tip generously.
- Write or call someone you haven’t heard from in several months. .
- Praise workers to their bosses.
Tip Three: Make Kindness Its Own Reward. When we are kind wanting to be reward by the other person is a bit like bribing someone to like you. Better just to take pleasure in being kind for its own sake and for the good it does you.
Share all you find of value on the internet. All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the writer, the people you share with, and you as being kind blesses you.
Post Inspiration: This post has absolutely no relationship to this WordPress Daily Prompt: Paper.
Links of Interest
These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- The five components of emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)
- About Emotional Fitness Training (emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much. Take their advice and mine carefully. Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart. Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others. As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.
Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors
If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here; I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what like me. Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability, Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense. If you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.