THE TWELVE DAILY EMOTIONAL FITNESS TRAINING EXERCISES
Exercise Four Practice Kindness
If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.
Plato, Greek philosopher.
Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless
Mother Teresa, winner of Nobel Peace Prize
We need positive connections to others, we need affirming, we need a presence in a world that shows it cares. Being kind meets each of those needs, not just for those we treat kindly, but for our own well-being. Giving and getting kindness is essential to your health. It is a true path to peace in your heart and for the world.
The smallest acts make a difference. A smile, a compliment or a few encouraging words nourish and connect not just the receiver, the giver as well.
I grew up in a small town where you had to smile and say hello to everyone. It is a habit I carried over to the streets of New York City, despite being advised it would not work on those mean streets, false advice. I found 99% of the people smiled back and in one way or another said hello. Sometimes my hello to strangers is just a nod, and sometimes it is a spoken hello. Moreover, if I saw the person was struggling with something—a crying child, too many packages, having to clean up other people’s messes, instead of saying “Hello. ” I gave my proverbial “Stay strong.”
Finding a genuine compliment and giving it is another free and easy act of kindness. I love being waited on by young people and always make an effort to say something to bring a smile to their faces. I do it for my pleasure and enjoy when their faces light up. When I walked around those mean streets of New York City, I always kept an eye out for something I could complement.. Looking for compliments is like looking for beauty: look and you will find–beautiful smile, beautiful eyes, winning ways, a bright-colored scarf, a pretty pin, a stylish pair of shoes, an interesting hair cut, fancy nails.
Be kind to yourself. Make kindness a habit.
A bit of fragrance always clings to the hand that gives roses.
Being considerate of others will take you and your children further in life than any college or professional degree.
Marion Wright Edelman, Advocate for disadvantaged children. In 1968