February 17th is Random Acts of Kindness Day. Hopefully having a Special Day to do so will get you in the habit.
Emotional Fitness Thoughts and Tips
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PRACTICE KINDNESS RIGHT now
Remember to be kind to me. Sharing is caring; so is liking, or commenting. Your caring is an act of kindness that keeps me moving forward.
Thank you for all you do
This post was inspired by the fact that today is National Kindness Day and not this WordPress DAILY PROMPT: Evasive Action – What’s the most significant secret you’ve ever kept? Did the truth ever come out?
However, the prompt does spark this thought about being kind. There is a time to not say something and a time to speak out. How to know when to speak out and when to stay quiet, particularly if that means saying things that are not perceived as kind? The first step is to make certain the issue warrants discussing. Is it a safety issue? Then you must speak. Otherwise, take
Is there a safety issue? Then you must speak. Otherwise, take the time to make sure it is a problem. See how often you feel the urge to comment. Three times in a row?
Then, before saying something ask yourself these questions.
- Is it to make me feel better, superior, more powerful, or is it about helping my friend?
- Will it help more than hurt?
- Will it damage the relationship?
- Is it the right time.?
- How can I say what needs saying without being mean? That needs thinking about and rehearsing.
Do not want to do so much thinking about saying something, a sure sign to just stay quiet.
As Henry David Thoreau noted, “True friendship can afford true knowledge. It does not depend on darkness and ignorance.”
LINKS OF INTEREST
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