#EmotionalIntelligence depends on the ability to both recognize what you are feeling and to keep tabs on that feeling’s strength.
Here’s another feeling thermometer:
EMOTIONAL FITNESS TIPS
Tip one: Any feeling can be rated and the best rating is on a personal feeling thermometer. How to create one? Easy. Follow these steps.
- Take a blank sheet of paper and draw a thermometer along the left hand side. Divide it into ten readings.
- Decide whether the feeling you want to measure revs you up in all the wrong ways or shuts you down.
- Recall the worse behavior that feeling enticed you into doing. That is your extreme rating.
- Recall times that feeling could not ruffle your feathers. That is the opposite extreme rating.
- Fill in each point between the two extremes.
- Add names and feeling clues to each point. A feeling clue is anything that tells you the feeling is visiting at a certain level. Self-talk is one type of feeling clue; bodily sensations another.
Tip Two: Post this where you will see it regularly and when you see it, ask your self what you are feeling and how strongly.
Tip Three: Use another regularly occurring event to signal you to take a feeling temperature. The ringing cell phone for example.
Tip four: For more detailed advice about improving your feeling awareness buy EFTI’s eBook Know Your Feelings , Become a Feeling Detective It costs less than a latte or a big Mac.
Remember you don’t need a Kindle or other electronic book reader to read Kindle books. Amazon gives you a free application that lets you read their eBooks on-line.
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Thank you for all you do and as always work to stay strong, which while is not easy, more possible than you might think.
The Daily Prompt for July 17th,2014 did not inspire this post. That prompt: Nosey Delights: From the yeasty warmth of freshly baked bread to the clean, summery haze of lavender flowers, we all have favorite smells we find particularly comforting. What’s yours?
However, let me point out that a smell can be a feeling clue and smells that calm are important emotional fitness tools.
LINKS AND ARTICLES OF INTEREST
- What Are Emotions and How Can They Be Measured (pdf download of scholarly article by KRScherer)
- The Daily Prompt (wordpress.com)
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- Emotional Fitness Training Books (amazon.com)
Images are by Emotional FItness Training Inc. and can be downloaded free at the EFTI Store.