Fridays are usually  a post reminding you to Take A Break and find me-time, family-time, friend-time and quiet-time. This post adds a challenge.

The American Sign Language sign for Thank you: Fingers to lips as if to throw a kiss, then the hand is  brought down toward the heart.

Be Grateful is one of the 12 Daily Emotional Fitness Training Exercises.  We challenge you as you take your break time  to say thank you to all that happens.  Aim at least to say it 100 times, during your break time, more is better.

AND yes, say  thank you to pain, stress, the rudeness of strangers, as well as the thoughtlessness of family and friends.

Mark Twain said, “Do the right thing. It will gratify some people and astonish the rest.”

Being grateful and putting it into words is the right thing, it will warm most people while astonishing the rude and thoughtless.


Tip one:  Saying thank you to most people comes easily. The trick is to say it without rancor to those who offend.  Said with anger it will seem sarcastic and not be nearly as astonishing as saying it kindly and with a smile.

I can’t always do that; and comfort myself when I cannot with the thought that perhaps they will think a bit about being kinder.

My dirty little trick for meaning my thank you to rude people is that while I say “Thank you” out loud, in my head I am saying “Thank you for reminding me I can be better than you.”

Tip two:  Thanking pain is a lot harder, but still possible.  Many say all pain is a lesson.  Not my idea.  Sometimes pain is random and life being life, not teaching us something.  At least that is my opinion.  So I can say a silent and sarcastic thank you to pain.  I can also say a sincere thank you if I see a lesson.  Finally, I can be grateful and say “Thank You” because  I am still alive and strong enough to endure the slings, arrows, spears, bullets, and grenades life throws my way.


Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Piglet noticed that even though he had a Very Small Heart, it could hold a rather large amount of Gratitude.

A. A. Milne

Life is a struggle, full of pain and suffering, but also full of joy and goodness.   Being grateful keeps you moving toward joy and happiness and adds to peace.


Liking, commenting, sharing are acts of social media kindness.  So if you found this post helpful, do any of the above.  I promise your kindness is always repaid.

DISCLAIMER ONE: EMOTIONAL FITNESS TRAINING IS NOT THERAPY  Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel. Take their advice and mine carefully. Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart. Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you by others. As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.

DISCLAIMER TWO: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS  If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share my blog. Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability. If you hang in with me, thank you.

DISCLAIMER THREE: HERE COMES A SHAMELESS PLUG  Work of mine that is professionally edited can be found in my books, available on Amazon and readable on any tablet, laptop, Mac, PC, e-reader or Kindle device. If you enjoy my blog, please consider purchasing one of my books. Thank you.



  1. Thank you Katherine. I needed this today. I am recovering from surgery due to a broken ankle and my younger brother just went through 8 hours of brain surgery yesterday. We have so much to be thankful for, most of all the love of family and friends. Have a peaceful Friday.

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