My blogging and other posts are colored mostly in blue with occasional sparks of red. Why? Here is one answer:
Many factors determine who we are and how we act as people. Some of these factors are beyond our control: Our genes, the way our brains work, the experiences we encounter including the family, social class, and nation we were born into. These two shape our beliefs and our beliefs shape our actions.
The key is to remember that these things constantly influence one another, so each of us is a complex tapestry and much of that tapestry is not ours to control. Therefore, it behooves us to work very hard to control what we can: our beliefs and our behavior.
Red beliefs — those we hold passionately and that fuel our anger toward others or make us feel morally superior, better than, more enlightened than other – those are the most dangerous. Challenge them. Read, learn, talk with those who hold opposing beliefs. You will not be popular but you might become kinder.
All behavior should pass through the litmus test of kindness. And yes, I know that is not always easy to determine, at least when dealing with the world at large. That said, kindness is not difficult when walking the ordinary paths you wander on as you walk through your day. Start there.
Here is a story by Joann C. Jones, a nurse:
During my second year of nursing school our professor gave us a quiz. I breezed through the questions until I read the last one: “What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?” Surely this was a joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Before the class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our grade. “Absolutely,” the professor said. “In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say hello.” I’ve never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.
Most of us want to be kind, most of us are. However, every one of us can add a few more smiles or compliments to those we meet throughout our day.
For all you do to share and care, thank you.
- From an Event-to-Belief-to-Feeling-to-Behavior ~~~ (motionstartedbreathingwanted.wordpress.com)
- 7 Beliefs of Unhappy People (lifehack.org)