THINK IT IS ALL IN YOUR HEAD? THINK AGAIN.

TOO OFTEN WHEN THE DOCTORS CANNOT FIGURE OUT WHAT IS GOING ON, THEY SAY IN ONE WAY OR ANOTHER “IT’S IN YOUR HEAD.

My internet friend Tilly Bud usually posts jokes, but this post did not set me laughing it set me in a cranky rant mode and suggested the topic for this post.  She posted it on  International CFS/ME and Fibromyalgia Awareness Day.  Her husband is a ME (Myalgic Encephalomyelitis) sufferer.

What About M.E.? « The Laughing Housewife.

Here an illuminating quote: “Please consider me sticking two fingers up at those who say my husband who, before he became ill, ran his own business, travelled all over sub-Saharan Africa, trained under-14s at football, was a qualified referee who covered as many as five games every Saturday, set up and ran the official MCFC Supporters Club of South Africa and occasionally came home to remind himself of what his family looked like, is lazy and too idle to work.  I don’t buy it.”

Her rant is informative and has links to more information.

Sadly too many doctors and others still buy the “In Your Head” pitch when facing something that hasn’t yet been explained.  I was accused of several  such  illnesses by a number of different doctors.  One complained that I was always complaining of feeling tired and sick.  He was flipping through my chart.  He did have the where withal to blush a bit when I pointed out angrily that “The only time I darkened his office door was when I was sick and that might explain his finding.”

Another time I was having what looked like Irritable Bowel Syndrome.  I insisted on a test that revealed the problem was an absence of Flora. Or perhaps it was Fauna that had vanished.  As a child I had Rheumatic fever and for about thirty years of my life I was on a preventative monthly penicillin shot.  That shot eventually upset the Flora/Fauna Balance.  My bowels being in an uproar, as my mother would dub my suffering,  wasn’t in my head.

STAYING STRONG TIP   Now the truth be told, some things are in our head.  But most are not.  More and more is being learned about all illnesses every day.  The best protection from “In Your Head Diagnosis” involves several steps:

  1. Understand medicine is art and a science.  The science is expanding, but remains much that is not known.
  2. Remember the human tendency to find something or someone to blame when trouble strikes and cannot be explained .
  3. Remember Doctors are not Gods.
  4. Not satisfied with your doctor’s findings, seek another doctor, seek a consultant, but do so respectfully. Doctors are self protective, sort  and have as storng a white coat line as the blue wall policement form around each other.Become an educated consumer.
  5. Find support.
  6. Learn pain management. For our heads can help even when the problem isn’t in our head.  A good hypnotist might help.  Get and read   Managing Pain Before it Manages You  It is ts the best.

There is no magic, but these tips might help your live stronger.  I hope so.

PRACTICE KINDNESS: Share this with someone who might find it helpful.  They might be appreciative, but you will have done the right thing, and I will be grateful.

IMAGE BY: KIDVSKAT  

2 Comments

  1. Thank you for this post and for sharing mine. The more we can spread the word, the less judgemental people will become, and the more supportive.

    The problem is that people with M.E. and similar conditions don’t LOOK sick, so people assume they are not sick. It is as much an illness of character as anything, so people like my husband put on a cheerful face in company, then take to their beds when the company has gone.

    Thanks again for helping spread the word.

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