Three Holiday Safety Tips

Holidays call for  happiness seeking. Too many drink as part of their quest and that creates more problem drivers. What do? The obvious don’t drink and drive. If you do drink and drive  you are a problem drinker, stop denying it.

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The first  rule  recognizes that teens are at greater risk to the lure of drinking than older and supposedly wiser humans. A generalization as some teens are smart enough to drink safely, and some adults are not. The main problem with teens remain peer pressure and the tendency to go against parental teachings.

The next two rules keep your level of alcohol consumption at a level that does not reduce your functioning to dangerous levels. Examples:

Single and getting a little too happy on a date? At best you might have unsafe sex and at worse you are more vulnerable to predators.

Some people only drink on weekends, but then do so at dangerous levels. These may function well during the week, but get out of control on weekend.

There are also drinkers who can abstain for long periods of time, but one drink and all safe drinking is put aside. The old movie “Lost Weekend” demonstrates this type of drinking problems.

Finally, a number of teenager and adults drinking like teens, die each year from over-dosing in chug-a-lug contests. When someone passes out from drinking, 911 needs to be called immediately.

A sad fact related to the above rules is that the media encourages violating these rules. Bars are in the of selling drinks, not getting you to stop at one drink or to  buy only one an hour.

The fourth and fifth rules serve to decrease the build up of tolerance so you have to drink more and more to feel the desired for reactions.

One sure sign of major problem drinking is no longer drinking to get happy, but to feel somewhat normal. The happy drunk is not a happy drunk but a desperate one.

The sixth rule keeps your body from over dosing on alcohol as well as helping you observe the first five rules.  A too little known fact: Smoking pot reduces nausea and  keeps you from vomiting. Vomiting is nature’s way of ridding your body of things that could kill. Too much alcohol kills.

Wondering if the rules apply to drugging. Yes and no.Yes: As Harm reduction programs seek to help those using drugs to do so safely. So there are safe drugging rules. No: as the rules vary in many respects. So if you are worried about drugs go to the above link to learn more.

The seventh rule should be self-evident, but sadly many violate it under the delusion they are sober when they are not. 


Emotional fitness tip one: If you party hard, try abiding by these rules throughout the next week-end. No sweat doing so, no problem. Deviating even from just one?  A problem.

Emotional fitness tip two: If this small self-administered test reveals even the lowest level problem, face facts. You do not have to be a full-blown alcoholic to indulge in harmful drinking.

You do need to get straight in one way or another if you cannot drink safely. AA is one alternative, but not for all. A group of therapists have developed what is called Motivational Interviewing that takes a softer approach as do  EFTI’s Safe Drinking rules.

Finally, just finding a partner or two that share concern about how much they are drinking and joining together to support a SMART goal of abiding by the safe drinking rules might be all you need. The person to help  might be a drinking buddy or a loved one that worrying about your drinking habits.

Emotional fitness tip three: Worried about someone else’s drinking habits? First take the test yourself. If you are violating any rules, state that you are going to work on becoming a safe drinking.

Then take the test  as if you were the other person. Share both results and ask the other person what he or she thinks about what the test says about you and about them.

Don’t get into an argument. Problem drinkers are Gotcha Warriors and want to divert attention from you by making you argue to the point where you get out of control. Go here to read about how to deal with a Gotcha Warrior.

Listen do not judge. Also know that denial is part of problem drinking. So do not expect an instant “Aha.” Some studies show that it takes five or more serious encounters to get an alcoholic into recovery.  You are a link in a chain. Stay strong and caring, don’t support bad habits and that means not supporting denial.

Denial cartoon

Thank you Carl D’Agostino for letting me use your cartoons. Love this one.

Already a safe drinker and the other person is not, when faced with denial, and seeing a violation of one of the rules, state gently, “I am worried, I need you to stay safe and I think when it comes to drinking, you are at risk.”

A thought for parents: if it is a teen that is not drinking safely, imposes sanctions. Definitely stop from driving.  More advice is found in my book eBook When Good Kids Drink and Drug.

Much of the same advice is available in my book When Good Kids Do Bad Things. You can get that as an eBook or  in print on Amazon. Either will  cost a bit more than a movie, but might help you save the life of a  child you love.

Pressed for cash, the old versions can often be found on Amazon for under a dollar. Even then that helps me for while I need to earn a bit of money, my main mission is sharing knowledge that  I know is helpful .


Remember sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Share it even if it doesn’t speak to you, it will speak to some. Didn’t like it?  Comment and tell me why and how to improve.



Today’s post is a quick very little reworded repeat of yesterdays, But also fitns in with this WordPress Daily Prompt: Worldly Encounters – The friendly, English-speaking extraterrestrial you run into outside your house is asking you to recommend the one book, movie, or song that explains what humans are all about. What do you pick?

The Torah accompanied by the various discourses. Why? It is full of cautionary tales that depict humanity’s good and bad traits,  and also honors an extra-terrestrial. Noah’s drunkenness applies to the post more specifically.


Most of the links cited in this blog post relate specifically to other resources about the main topic of this particular blog post.  From now on these links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.


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