THREE TIPS FOR HOLDING ON TO THE GOOD – DAY TWELVE DE-STRESSING THE HOLIDAZE

Good memories help you hold on to all that is good, but bad memories can crowd them out.  This EFT exercise strengthens the good ones.

Good memories

Because our brains are survival based, bad memories are more firmly embedded than good ones.  What makes it worse is the bad ones often come on like 911 calls.  What to do?

Tip one: create and keep a  memory book.   Life is often a struggle.  A Memory Book honors our struggles, reminds us we are strong and helps us hold onto the good.  A Memory Book is more than a photograph album. A Memory Book is a way of making sense of life and how it changes.

Some Memory Books are one page long, others hold only a few pages stapled together, others cover a life time and get housed in expensive leather covers.

Size is not as important as what the book holds. One page holding the right memories is often worth more than a hundred pages of pictures that carry little meaning. A picture is worth a 1000 words but pictures plus some words are priceless.

Tip two:  Create a good memory brain file.  This is done by creating some sanctuaries, first in your home, and then in your mind. 

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Tip three: Use the above tips to regularly  practice EFT’s Hold On to the Good Exercise.  Here are the steps to that exercise:

  1. Go to a physical sanctuary.  Some think of their bed as a sanctuary and do this exercise at night before falling asleep.
  2. Consciously relax by spending a minute tensing and then releasing all your body. Start at your head and work down section by section.
  3. Take a Calming Breath.
  4. Go to your Imaginary Sanctuary.  For some this is best done by picturing it in your mind; others do better describing themselves there.
  5. Review the day.  Say good-by to the bad things, embrace all that was good.
  6. Take a Calming Breath when you are ready to end the exercise.

PARENTING TIPs

Parenting tip one:  Parents start a child’s Memory Book, but as soon as  possible, the child should be part of creating hers or his Memory Books, These will often be a page or a smaller book.  When collected these pages and smaller books become larger Memory Books  or become part of a Family’s Memory Book.

Memory Books can be made for many things–baby’s first day home, first steps, special people, special days, ordinary days, marriages, graduations, vacations, all good things.

Parenting tip two:  Parents must keep  Memory Books safe. Some teens have thrown away a Memory Book and in time, deeply regretted doing so.

 Parenting tip three: Include bad times once they have passed for bad tiems teach lessons.  The lessons?  Bad times that have passed teach the idea that life is full of change, good times come and then go; the same with bad times.  Second lesson: how strong we are.   Review the Honor Your Strength Exercise.

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Thank you and work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find the good.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

FREE  STUFF FROM EFTI

All the handouts and poster coaches for this course are being posted at the store so you can download them for free. A poster coach is like a face-to-face coach; all serve as practice reminders, some teach you the exercises needed to stay strong.

To use one, after down loading it from the store, print it up preferably in cardstock and color, then post it where you will see it as you go about your day.

Apologies if you cannot find one.  I am a Jill of all in this business, so some things take longer than others.  If something used here isn’t posted yet, you will find lots of other offerings including inspirational quotes or more EFTI exercises. In time all will be posted.

DAILY PROMPT   Mystery Box:  You wake up one morning to find a beautifully wrapped package next to your bed. Attached to it is a note: “Open me, if you dare.” What’s inside the mystery box? Do you open it?

How this fits in with today’s EFTI Post:   Every day presents us with a Mystery Box and when we open it it will be life good and bad.  Our task is to learn from the bad and hold on to the good. Stay strong.

Agree or disagree, comments are always welcomed.