Three Tips for Making the Best of All Advice

Everyone tells everyone else what to do or tries to. I do, but like more than half of all  people, I rarely do all I am advised to do; nor, do I follow my own advice.

Advice is for you, not me


Wise physicians know that most patients do not follow their advice. One study showed that less than 60% of patients took medication as prescribed. I don’t. Moreover, I think I know more about how my body responds than my doctors know.

I believe our bodies are individually designed chemical laboratories; each responds differently to different medications. Codeine would kill me; statins destroy my brain. The doctors listen to me about the codeine, but are less enthusiastic about my refusal to take statins, once I tried them for a few days. Then there is a heart medicine I refer to as f—–itall; that one sent me spiralling into depressions dark pit.

On the other hand penicillin saved my life when I was a child and had an attack of rheumatic fever. I am grateful for that and grateful for all the advances medical research has made. That said, it is my body and therefore my responsibility to  collaborate with my doctors in figuring out what works best.


Emotional Fitness Training tip one: Advice givers sometimes know more than you know. Moreover, the more you think you know, the more you need to think about what you do not know.   So listen to advice with what the Buddhist’s call a Beginner’s Mind.

Emotional Fitness Training tip two: Experiment. As fitness coach Victoria Moran suggests, “….experiment until you find activities that make you happy as well as healthy. Choose your exercise using the same criteria you’d apply to choosing a date–that is, attractive to you and able to hold your interest for an hour.”

Emotional Fitness Training tip three: Try not to preach to the choir when giving advice.  Few things about advice turn me and others off than being told things already tried. Best to ask a few questions first.

  • The first: Are you needing to vent or do you want to hear some advice from me.
  • The second: Before offering your advice ask “What have you done to deal with this?” Then you must listen so you do not tell them something they have tried and found useless.


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This blog post  was inspired by this WordPress DAILY PROMPT —Take It From Me. What’s the best piece of advice you’ve given someone that you failed to take yourself?

My answer is above, but let me add, I advise people to “Move Your Body” as one of my Daily Twelve Easy Exercises and that is the hardest for me to do and at least two or three  days a week I do not follow the  advice I give others.


These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

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