How talented procrastinators turn “To Do’s” into “Done.”
Joking aside, knowing when and how to procrastinate keeps your “To Do” list from ruling you. Procrastination is a skill and skills are learned tools for living the good life. The following emotional fitness tips highlight the best tools of the Professional Procrastinator: Knowing what matters, practicing imperfection, and having strong self-soothing skills.
Emotional fitness tip one: Know what matters. What matters most is doing your best to bring Peace on Earth. Not what the advertizers and sales people want you to believe. Dis-satisfaction creates sales opportunities.
However, working to make the world a better place is what both the sages of the ages and the modern researchers know leads to the good life. Doing so is what Emotional Fitness Training means by The Mission.
Using rating scales keeps you focused most clearly on what matters. Anything and everything can be rated. Here is proof of that:
The simplest way to work toward Peace on Earth is to practice kindness and gratitude. Every time you sincerely thank someone for what they do for you and others makes them appreciated and that is what all seek.
I make it a point to thank all the police, servicemen and garbage collectors I meet when out and about. I also find something nice to say to those who serve me fast food or ring up my groceries, hold a door for me, or in any other way give me a gift of kindness. The smiles I get in return warm me.
Emotional fitness tip two: Practice Imperfection. This aids in holding to The Mission. No one person can bring Peace on Earth. However, every person can bring a bit of peace to the bit of earth they occupy. That requires thinking not perfect, but “Good enough” or “The best I can do right now.”
Practicing imperfection is easier if one takes the time to focus on the small acts that you can do easily and well enough to make a difference. Across all ages various sages have known and preached this:
Lao Tzu said: Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.
Then there was body builder Charles Atlas who said, “Step by step and the thing is done.”
Then along came Warren Buffet who made billions and noted, “I don’t look to jump over 7-foot bars: I look around for 1-foot bars that I can step over.”
Finally, more recently Thich Nhat Hanh also suggests the smallest step mattered, “Every breath we take, every step we make, can be filled with peace, joy and serenity.”
Worry not about doing things perfectly, just do what you can the best you can, but always with the greater good in mind.
Emotional fitness tip three: Strengthen self soothing skills. Practicing Imperfection and holding to the Mission are not easily accomplished tasks. EFTI’s eBook Self-soothing, Creating Calm in You Life, is this blog post’s sale pitch. Remember EFTI’s eBooks all cost less than a movie, most less than a latte. Also remember you can get a tool from Amazon that lets you read any eBook sold there in a desktop or Ipad or cell phone. Here is a free and quick introduction to Emotional Fitness Training Easy Exercises.
As usual practice all of the above, then teach each skill to your child as appropriate to her or his age and stage. The best way to start is teaching your child how to rate things as soon as s/he begins to toodle; then each hurtful fall becomes a teachable moment. Go here for a related Parents Are People Blog post.
THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO
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POST INSPIRATION: This WordPress Prompt which was: Those Dishes Won’t Do Themselves: What’s the household task you most dislike doing? Why do you think that is — is it the task itself, or something more?
The something more relates to this post which is the failure when I procrastinate of someone else – hubby for example, to step up to the plate and to it for me. My solution with it comes to many a house hold task is to practice imperfection and calming self-talk.
Links of INterest
- Practicing Imperfection (emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
- Pursue Progress, No Perfection (thecoughlincompany.com)
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)