Remember to smile, compliment, and say thank you as you go about your day, not just today, but every day.  Doing so improves your emotional fitness.

Emotional Fitness Training Tips about Kindness

Tip one: This link How to Be Kind to People Worldwide: 10 steps – wikiHow gave birth to this post.  Focuses on the big picture involved in using kindness to create a better world.

Tip two: Kindness spreads whereever you practice it.  Start with yourself, your family, and your friends, but spread outward from there.

Tip three: Practicing kindness does not demand being Pollyanna happy all the time.  Desperately seeking happiness  is denying reality, but we can work to handle the bad times better.  When my last nerve is under someone’s foot, and being kind is not  possible at that moment, I try to “Suck it up, Ms. Buttercup.” and minimally not turn cruel.  Later, if possible and worth the effort, I work to deal with the  last nerve situation calmly and kindly.

Stay Strong

As I note above sometimes it is not possible to stay strong by being kind.  There are bullies in the world eager to take advantage of those who seek the kindness path.  That is why speaking out against all hate talk is so important.  Protest such talk in person.  Also be vigilent when listening to the talking heads, viewing all media–including ads, movies, and television shows that portray violence even in a humorous way, and protest in one way or another.  Promote more balance in our news media.

DISCLAIMER ONE: ADVICE IS JUST ADVICE NOT A GUARANTEE   Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about how to stay emotionally strong.  Take their advice and mine carefully. Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart. Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you those of us who think we can help.  Sometimes we do, sometimes we don’t.  As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.

DISCLAIMER TWO: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS  If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share my blog. Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability. If you hang in with me, thank you.


One of the easiest ways to practice kindness is to like, share or comment as you do your internet surfing.  We all need affirming and most of us on social media want to be liked.  Do your part in lifting other’s spirit.

Work of mine that is professionally edited can be found in my books, available on Amazon and readable on any tablet, laptop, Mac, PC, e-reader or Kindle device.  Right now the work is for parents, however several of the books have been noted as being helpful to all.  If you enjoy my blog, please consider purchasing one of my books.  If you buy a book please, please review it. Thank you.

Tame the Test Anxiety Monster is on sale  for the rest of this week at a promotional rate. Please review if you buy it.

Here is what therapist Geraldine Wallman, ACSW, DSW said when she reviewed it:

As a psychotherapist I am always looking for accessible, accurate and helpful material on emotional regulation to share with my clients. “Tame the Test Anxiety Monster” meets these criteria and goes one better – it employs a gentle humor that can reduce the reader’s anxiety immediately. I know it did mine.
This book will be useful not only for parents struggling to improve their skills in parenting anxious young test-takers, but also for older students who can apply the principles to themselves and adults who have difficulty regulating their own anxieties.

My other books include:

When Good Kids Do Bad Things. A Survival Guide for Parents of Teenagers

Parents Are People Too. An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents
How to Hold a Successful Family Meeting

Finally, you  might  enjoy my Emotional Fitness Pinterest Board

As always thank you all for all you do, stay strong, and lots of love, laughs and luck.



    • Thank you. Most of my ebooks will be on sale at some point as a promotion and effort to get some reviews.

      Taming the Test Monster is at 99 cents now and would be helpful to those with both normal test anxiety and or OCD. I started Emotional Fitness Training to combat stigma and offer some practical help, but also provide some psycho-education for when more is needed. The more who share, the more will understand, the more likely stigma will be defeated. Thank you again.

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