Twelve Plus Classic Reads To Strengthen Your Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence: brain and heart working together.

The leap to fame for the idea of emotional intelligence began  with Daniel Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence . A good book to read about the theory behind Emotional Intelligence (EI).

Most of the books listed, however, are more about the practice of marrying thought to emotion, books that lead to the development of my consulting practice Emotional Fitness Training.

Then there are three works of fiction I read during my teens that started me thinking more critically.  The list concludes with the book, I still read every year for its enduring wisdom.

The One Minute Manager  by Kenneth H. Blanchard and Spencer Johnson

Getting to Yes by Roger Fisher, William Ury, and Bruce Patton

Peace in Every Step by Thich Nhat Hanh

When Bad Things Happen to Good People By Howard  Kushner

Feeling Good by David Burns

How To Meditate by Lawrence  La Shan

What Is Narrative Therapy by Alice Morgan

Taproots: Underlying Principles of Milton Erickson’s Therapy and Hypnosis by Bill O Hanlon

Uncommon Therapy by Jay Haley

The Original Warm Fuzzy Tale by Claude Steiner

The Fragile Alliance by John Meeks

Children Who Hate by Fritz Redle and David Wineman

Lost Boys Why Our Sons Turn Violent and How We Can Save Them by James Garbarino

People Making By Virginia Satir

A Theory Of Cognitive Dissonance by Leon Festinger

Man’s Search For Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl

Before I became a therapist these fictional books started me thinking more critically

Gone With The Wind by Maragret Mitchell

The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

The Once And Future King by T. H. White

Although I dip into each one of these books off and on, or follow the author’s blogs; the book I read yearly remains White’s Once and Future King. If you haven’t read it, do. It is a satiric re-telling the tale of King Arthur. It was dumbed-down by Disney’s Sword in the Stone. Tales of Arthur were made light and fancy if still a bit more realistic in the movie Camelot and even closer to reality in the movie Excaliber.

White’s satiric tale was written as HItler had gained enough power to start his efforts to rule the world.  Powerful reading and perhaps more so today.

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These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much.  Take their advice and mine carefully.  Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart.  Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others.  As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.

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