Uncertainty goes away once you decide to act, no matter how you act. Nevertheless, it is best to think for a moment so you act wisely.
Jerome Kagan sees uncertainty as the root of worry, anxiety, and anger. It becomes anger when we can blame someone else for making us doubt what we think we know. When you understand that need to blame and then ask yourself, what doubts is the other person creating, you are on the way to finding peace.
Kagan also says, ” After hunger, a human’s most important need is to know what is virtuous .”
Why then do we kill, torture, enslave each other? The simple answer, we twist our thoughts so we think we are being virtuous. Moreover, that false sense of virtue links to the human need to protect our family, our tribe, ourselves. That need pushes us to divide the world into the Saved and the Damned, or us and the other. Not the path to peace for you or the world. What to do?
Emotional Fitness Tips
Tip one: The more you believe you know, the more you need to start doubting.
Tip two: Seek always try to act as the Golden Rules proposed by the Sages of the Ages suggest: Treating others as we want to be treated and not doing to another what we would not want to be done to ourselves. The emotional fitness researchers know this is in your best interests as well as useful for the world.
Tip three: if you are always angry, always filled with thoughts of revenge, acting violently, get help, something has gone very wrong in your life and needs correcting.
As Jerome Kagan also notes: “Although humans inherit a biological bias that permits them to feel anger, jealousy, selfishness and envy, and to be rude, aggressive or violent, they inherit an even stronger biological bias for kindness, compassion, cooperation, love and nurture – especially toward those in need. This inbuilt ethical sense is a biological feature of our species.”
Here is another poster coach to help you learn how to rate things. Rating stuff sets priorities.
Teach rating skills to your child, beginning with teaching them to rate pain. But as they move toward the teenage years, teach them to use the above rating scale.
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Tip Inspiration: Came from a Doug Savage Cartoon and not this WordPress Prompt: World’s Best Widget – You’ve been granted magical engineering skills, but you can only use them to build one gadget or machine. What do you build?
However, in order to cut down on uncertainty and make better decisions I would want a bull s— detector installed in everyone’s brain, mine included.
These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.
- An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents (amazon.com)
- The five components of Emotional Intelligence (sonoma.edu)
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
- Twelve Emotional Fitness Exercises to Cross Train Your Brain (emotionalfitnesstraining.com)