Victim or Survivor – Tips to Move Forward.

Zora Neale Hurston Quote
A victim is someone  injured, destroyed, or sacrificed under any of various conditions; a survivor is one who lives on and functions so as to prosper.
Emotional Fitness Training Tips
Tip one: Everyone is a victim in one way or another.
Tip two: Everyone hurts others in one way or another. 
Tip three: Everyone is a survivor in one way or another.
Tip four: Realize no matter how seriously you were injured, so have not been destroyed. Be grateful.
Tip five: Neither deny or dwell excessively on how you have been victimized.
Tip six: Let go of blame-blaming yourself or blaming another. Blaming mires you in victimhood. Own up to your mistakes; learn lessons; work to do better.
Tip seven: Forgive others their short comings. Forgiveness means giving the person, not the act. Criminal acts must be punished. Forgiveness does not require staying in contact with an abuser, loving some one who has done you harm. Forgiveness means not seeking personal revenge.
Tip eight: Strengthen your self-soothing skills. For a quick lesson check out these Emotional Fitness Exercises. For a longer last lesson, buy EFT’s Self-soothing To Create Calm in Your Life
Tip nine:  Do more of what offers hope and comfort. For some that may be attending religious services, for everyone, it means practicing kindness and pursuing change civilly through thoughtful civic actions.
Tip ten: Remember what matters, be grateful,  practice kindness.

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Post Inspiration: This post relates to this WordPress Daily Prompt:   Overwhelming.

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Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much.  Take their advice and mine carefully.  Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart.  Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others.  As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.

Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors

If  you need perfect posts, you will not find them  here;  I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what  like me.  Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability,  Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense.  If  you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.

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