You did not volunteer to come into this world. You did not volunteer to be a member of the family you found yourself living with or the town you grew up in or the country you called home. You certainly did not volunteer for any of the bad stuff that has come your way.
The point? Unless you are unconscious, you can always volunteer to respond as a victim or a survivor: as Viktor Frankl. concentration camp survivor noted, “ “The one thing you can’t take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.”
Victims cave and wallow; moan, groan and complain. The storm and drama lives on but mostly in their self-talk and constant focus on the storms the have endured. Survivors move on. That does not mean denying the bad stuff or moaning or crying a bit. It does mean keeping the pain behind you. Taking whatever lessons you can find and moving on. The following tips help you move forward.
Emotional Fitness Tips
Tip One: Do not sweat the small stuff. Start by rating what pushes you to complain. For what we complain about is mostly small stuff. Broken finger nail, spilt milk, someone dissing you, or making a stupid mistake? All small stuff.
A broken heart? Fired and having trouble finding a job? Bigger stuff.
Homeless? Death of a loved one? A life threatening illness? Living in a War Zone? Big stuff.
Tip Two: Know what matters most to you. This means knowing your mission – what you want your life to be about, and your goals. My eBook Know Your Mission So You Can Reach Your Goals puts you on the right track to a good life. As with all my eBooks, it costs less than a movie and has more value. Buy it now.
Tip: Three: Adopt an attitude of gratitude by practicing deliberate kindness. Not only will others benefit, but you will also. Research shows that those who best deal with the nasty stuff life throws around are those who reach out to help others. Making kindness your way of life is volunteering for the good life.
Thank you for all you do
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Post Inspiration: This post was inspired by a WordPress Daily Prompt: Volunteer
OTHER LINKS OF INTEREST
These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- The five components of emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)
- An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)
- Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises.
Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much. Take their advice and mine carefully. Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart. Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others. As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.
Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors
If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here; I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what like me. Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability, Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense. If you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.