Thanking and remembering the Creator of all was the reason for what are now mainly secular holidays  urging you to buy. The important stuff gets forgotten.

#emotionalintelligence building blog post.Remembering what matters

Throughout all religions and  philosophies it is believed the good life cannot be found unless it involves being caring and just t0 all.  That is what matters.

It is easy to  get caught up in believing  owning the newest car, the latest fashions, the most up to date gadgets; others say how you look; still others think it is how smart you are or what school you went to, how much money you have matter. And yes, those things have a place, but are not what matter.   What matters is the kind of person you are. What matters most is being kind and caring.

Self care is not enough.  If you don’t act to make the world better, self-care becomes banal narcissism.  No matter what else you want to achieve in your life, remember to be kind, just, generous and caring, not just to those you love, but to all.    That is what matters and what needs to be remembered.

Humanity is programmed to be kind and caring, when we turn from that we turn from our inner good and that twists our being.  As  the poet Edgar Guest noted, “I have to live with myself and so, I want to be fit for myself to know.”

How to practice this exercise:  Before you climb out of bed each morning, take a minute to Be Grateful-why that is the first of the Twelve Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises; then take another moment to think about what matters.

Then throughout the day, when stressed, take a Calming Breath and remind yourself what matters. You won’t bring peace on earth, but you will bring more peace into your heart

Enhancement: Having a brief written mission statement printed up and posted were you can read it as you start you day, strengthens your resolve to remember what matters.  .

Don’t know about mission statements?  Get EFT’s eBook Know Your Mission So You Can Reach Your Goals.  Cost less than a movie and does more good.

parenting tips

Parenting tip one: Just using the words “Remember what matters” starts your child thinking and thinking about what matters is key to emotional fitness.

Parenting tip two: Teaching rating scales helps keep everything in perspective and can start with toddlers.

Parenting tip three: Devote some family meetings to talking about what matters.


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Thank you and work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find the good.




All the handouts and poster coaches for this course are being posted at the store so you can download them for free. A poster coach is like a face-to-face coach; all serve as practice reminders, some teach you the exercises needed to stay strong.

To use one, after down loading it from the store, print it up preferably in cardstock and color, then post it where you will see it as you go about your day.

Apologies if you cannot find one.  I am a Jill of all in this business, so some things take longer than others.  If something used here isn’t posted yet, you will find lots of other offerings including inspirational quotes or more EFTI exercises. In time all will be posted.

DAILY PROMPT   Unsung Heroes  We all have our semi-secret, less-known personal favorites — a great B-side, an early work by an artist that later became famous, an obscure (but delicious) family recipe. Share one of your unsung heroes with us — how did you discover it? Why has it stayed off everyone’s radar?

My parents, who never had material success, but knew what mattered.  Next? All my many dogs who also knew what mattered.

How this fits in with today’s EFTI Post:  The true heros of life are those who teach you want matters.

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