What Makes Us Frail and How to Stay Strong

This poem about abuse makes clear how the bullies win. Today, they seem to be winning and we seem frail by comparison.

A poem about abuse.

This poster speaks to surviving, no matter how others beat you down, how frail you feel.


A poem about being bullied.

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Tip one:   When feeling frail, rest, do all the things you know comfort you in healthy ways.  Stick to your normal routine as much as you can.

Tip two: When you cannot follow tip one, you may be physically ill,  If physically ill you need medical care.

Tip three: If not physically ill you many be a victim of trauma. Think secondary trauma as well as face-to-face trauma. The news can and does traumatize.Here’s a quick look at the major signs that suggest you are  suffering from a trauma reaction that needs mental health treatment:

  1. You feel physical ill or weak: have low energy, stomach complaints, or dizzy spells where you feel you might faint.
  2. You experience little contentment or happiness.
  3. You feel numb much of the time.
  4. You are always fearful or feel in danger
  5. You do not expect to have a happy or future or even to live long.
  6. Your thoughts are muddled or confusing.
  7. You have difficulty sleeping or have nightmares.
  8. You think you might be going crazy.
  9. You have flashbacks – feeling like you are back at the trauma in full force.
  10. During flashbacks you hear or see things others do not hear or see.
  11. You are often sad  and sometimes think of ending your life.
  12. You have angry outbursts, physically hurt or even kill others.

Tip four: Know where to go for help.  Start with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline ‘1-800-273-TALK (8255) . The operators are trained to help you figure out what you need and can tell you have to go about getting help.  You need not be suicidal. If not say, you are struggling and do not want to get to the point of killing yourself.

Tip five: Find the help that is right for you.  The quality of help varies, trauma treatment often starts with a debriefing, in other words, talking about what happened. However,  eventually treatment should move on helping you sort out thoughts, changes in your belief system, and strengthening your coping skills. Just going over and over the trauma and the feelings it created is not useful

First and before you start talking to a therapist use the SMART goal format to set your goal. My book Know Your Mission So You Can Reach Your Goals tells you how. A briefer introduction can be found on this blog post.

Thank You for All You Do

Thank me by remembering sharing is caring. if you liked this post, share it. You are practicing kindness and that keeps us both moving ahead.


This post was inspired by the Word Press  Daily Post Prompt  Frail.

I use the Daily Prompts not just to spark my blog ideas, but to improve my critical thinking skills.

Not sure  how to use a Daily Post Prompt as a writer?  Here are the steps to get started. Then improve your thinking skills by seeing where the prompt has  taken others and how other thoughts fuel  your thoughts. Whether you write or not your thinking skills are improved by reading other people’s thoughts.



These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (www.emotionalfitnesstraining.com
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)



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