Actually, you cannot be the boss of lots of things, but you can be the boss of your feelings, which is what #emotional-intelligence is all about.
Quote for the day
Let’s not forget that the little emotions are the great captains of our lives and we obey them without realizing it.
Vincent Van Gogh, 1889
EMOTIONAL FITNESS THOUGHTS AND TIP
Many sages across many ages have proposed in one way or another that it is best to “Follow your heart” or “Go with your gut.” False advice, but one that pleases our inner greedy child. We all want to do what our heart dictates.
Hear this: When you follow your heart or go with your gut your feelings are bossing you. And that is not something many of us like. True: some would rather be bossed than take on the responsibility of being the boss. Being bossed lets you off the hook and allows you the pleasures of victim-hood. Also keeps you from controlling your life. If you want to be the boss of your feelings, here are five tips.
Emotional Fitness Tips
Tip one: Develop the skill of feeling awareness. Take a feeling temperature regularly. You cannot boss a feeling, if you are not aware it is visiting you.
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Tip two: In order to slow down a bossy feeling’s efforts to get you to act without thinking take a quick calming breathe or try Emotional Fitness Training’s One Minute Mediation. Also available as a free poster coach. Or learn the 12 Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises. Start with this introduction.
Tip three: Think before acting on any feeling.
Tip four: When you think, think about doing the opposite of what the feeling wants you to do.
Tip five: When you think, think about what matters.
Finally, this post was inspired by both a Word Press Daily Prompt: The Show Must Go On If you were involved in a movie, would you rather be the director, the producer, or the lead performer? As usual I did my own thing about the topic and made it fit with Emotional Fitness Training.
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LINKS OF INTEREST
- Managing Strong Feelings (psychologytoday.com)
- Self-soothing to Create Calm in Your Life (amazon.com)
- 12 Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (amazon.com)
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- Weekly Writing Challenge (wordpress.com)