You can be the boss

Actually, you cannot be the boss of lots of things, but you can be the boss of your feelings, which is what #emotional-intelligence is all about. 

How do your feelings feel.

Dr. Freud is teaching feeling awareness, a major #emotional_fitness skill. Thank you, Doug Savage, honorary Emotional Fitness Trainer,  You keep us laughing and  laughing keeps us emotionally strong.

Quote for the day

Let’s not forget that the little emotions are the great captains of our lives and we obey them without realizing it.

Vincent Van Gogh, 1889


Many sages across many ages have proposed in one way or another that it is best to “Follow your heart” or “Go with your gut.”   False advice, but one that pleases our  inner greedy child.  We all want to do what our heart dictates.

Hear this: When you follow your heart or go with your gut your feelings are bossing you.   And that is not something many of us  like.  True: some would rather be bossed than take on the responsibility of being the boss.  Being bossed lets you off the hook and  allows you the pleasures of victim-hood.  Also keeps you from controlling your life.  If you want to be the boss of your feelings, here are five tips. 

Emotional Fitness Tips  

Tip one: Develop the skill of feeling awareness. Take a feeling temperature regularly. You cannot boss a feeling, if you are not aware it is visiting you.

Measuring happiness on a feeling thermometer

This is today’s EFT’Free Poster Coach, 

Tip two: In order to slow down a bossy feeling’s efforts to get you to act without thinking take a quick calming breathe or try Emotional Fitness Training’s One Minute Mediation. Also available as a free poster coach. Or learn the 12 Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises. Start with this introduction. 

Tip three:  Think before acting on any feeling.

Tip four: When you think, think about doing the opposite of what the feeling wants you to do.

Tip five: When you think, think about what matters.

Finally, this post was inspired by both a  Word Press  Daily Prompt: The Show Must Go On  If you were involved in a movie, would you rather be the director, the producer, or the lead performer?   As usual I did my own thing about the topic and made it fit with Emotional Fitness Training.

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  7. Your view on the sayings, “follow your heart” and “go with your gut” was very interesting! For some reason, I have never viewed it in that way, but it does make sense. I have said both of those phrases before, but to me it means to do what I truly know is the right thing to do.

    • Thank you for the comment. My take is that your have to explain with your brain (thoughts) why your heart and gut are right. That makes you think more clearly. The two are both sources of knowledge but for the important things must be in partnership. I trained crisis teams and until they had both heart and head saying yes, they had to keep thinking.

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