One of the most Emotionally Intelligent men, he knew how to defeat an enemy by making him a friend.

Lincoln is EFTI’s model of emotional fitness.  He suffered many tragedies with grace  and kept to his mission to make the world better.  The following story tells how Lincoln found his mission, what EFTI calls The Mission.

While campaigning in 1840 during a debate with Jesse B. Thomas,  Lincoln countered a vicious attack by Thomas. Angered when it came his turn to speak, Lincoln mimicked Thomas.  Lincoln’s  humorous mocking brought Thomas to tears and the crowd to cheers.

Afterwards Lincoln said that he was ashamed of his conduct that evening.  Thereafter he hunted up Thomas and made a full apology. Moreover, Lincoln never resorted to such hurtful humor again in a public address. He remembered what matters is to move the world toward peace in every way possible. That is everyone’s mission.

Emotional fitness tips about your mission

Tip one: Go to the movie, be inspired.

Tip two: Remember what matters: Some say what matters most is buying the newest car, the latest fashions, the most up to date gadgets; others say how you look; still others think it is how smart you are or what school you went to, how much money you have, have many jewels you wear, or how fancy a car you drive and life’s important missions. They are wrong.

Research shows these are less important than being kind and caring, forgiving others for their flaws, forgiving yourself for not being perfect, and working with others to make the world a better place.  EFTI calls this The Mission and believes it is everyone’s mission.

Caring is a long recognized value. Across all ages, throughout all religions and all philosophies, it is believed the good life cannot be found unless it involves being caring and just. You care for yourself when you care for others.


Anger and revenge harm you and often more you than your enemy.  Practicing Kindness and Forgiveness  work better to keep you strong and move the world toward peace.

One of the easiest ways to practice kindness is to like, share or comment as you do your internet surfing.  We all need affirming and most of us on social media want to be liked.  Do your part in lifting other’s spirit. Often being kind when you want to rant, opens the door to being able to find the humor in many rantings, even your own.

DISCLAIMER ONE: ADVICE IS JUST ADVICE NOT A GUARANTEE   Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about how to stay emotionally strong.  Take their advice and mine carefully. Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart. Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find advice that you can use.  As others have noted, take what helps, leave the rest.

DISCLAIMER TWO: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS  If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share my blog. Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability. If you hang in with me, thank you.

Work of mine that is professionally edited can be found in my books, available on Amazon and readable on any tablet, laptop, Mac, PC, e-reader or Kindle device.

Click here for a fuller explanation of the Daily Twelve Emotional Fitness Exerises.

Finally, you  might  enjoy my Emotional Fitness Pinterest Board.  I post and share health and mental health news, fun ideas, cooking for and with children recipes, stories and poems of strength, and Be With Beauty pictures as well as my blogs and because I am interested in writing and blogging tips on doing both better.

As always thank you all for all you do, stay strong, and may your life be filled with love, kindness, laughter, and lots of good luck.


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