SAFE BUT SORRY OR SORRY AND NOT SAFE, WHICH IS BETTER? I really prefer safe and not sorry.
Moreover, as a mental health crisis team director, I almost always had to decide about maintaining safety and I never wanted to be sorry. I lucked out and over 15 years my team and I never erred in the side of sorry.
As a trainer for other mental health crisis teams, I suggested the way to keep people safe so you wouldn’t have to sorry was to:
- Work within a team
- Make the ‘person of concern” one of the team members
- Make those who lived or worked with the person of concern team member
- Listen to your heart or your “gut”
- Be able to explain to the other team members what your heart is telling you; in other words use your head. If you can’t explain the reasoning behind your heart’s urgings, opt for safety.
- If the team cannot agree on what to do, opt for safety.
In situations involving life and limb, always opt for safety.
That said, when life and limb issues don’t exist, opt for being sorry. Too many people let fear rule and don’t do things that will make them happy. Sad. Facing fears and refusing to obey them does mean taking risks, occasionally failing, and sometimes being sorry you tried
So to answer the question, when is it better to be sorry than safe? It is never better to be sorry when someone’s safety is in question. That can be a bit muddy to decide, so take the time to think things through and opt for safety.
When safety is not the issue, you generally have a better chance of succeeding than if you don’t try. Moreover, you can take pride in having tried. Stay strong.