Blog Update

Aging is catching up with me. Still working on a revamp of the EFTI blog, but need to attend to some personal health issues. Will be posting sporadically for the rest of December.  Hope to return come the New Year with a re-launch of the EFT store. Stay strong.

Feeling blue? Beaten Down? Six EFT Tips To Help.

Aging is for heroes and heroines, as I am learning. There used to be a psychiatric diagnosis called “Reactive Depression.” It meant something bad had happened that pulled you down. Aging can do that at least when loneliness, loss, or pain erode your well-being.

But life throws stones at everyone, so when you are down, you need to pull yourself up, and if you cannot do that, you need help from family, friends, or professionals.

Emotional Fitness Tips

Tip one: Face this Brute Fact – Life showers you with flowers, lemons, and rocks. Enjoy the flowers, make lemonadeade from the lemons, and get professional help when the rocks seriously bruise, cut deep, or break bones.

Tip two: Remember what matters. What matters is not what you own, but who you are at heart.  All the sages know that the happiest people are those who live live’s of service.  Practice kindness all the ways you can.

Tip three: Let others practice kindness by getting their help when you need it.  Asking for help is too often seen as a weakness, but it is quite the opposite. This is particularly true when it comes to seeking help from a mental health professional. If you are struggling, call the  National Suicide Prevention Lifeline ‘1-800-273-TALK (8255). They will help you think about the need for mental help services whether you are suicidal or not. Why they are call Suicide Prevention.

Tip four: When you seek help, look for a  professional who uses some form of on-going evaluation  process. Here is a form I developed for all staff and clients when I ran mental health crisis teams in NYCity  before during and after 9/11. My form is a variation of The Center For Clinical Excellence‘ evaluation forms. As I also wanted clients to have an account of what happened during my team’s work with them, the evaluation material was included in a Progress Note. Clients got a carbon copy of the note, the original was filed in the client’s medical chart. A note to evaluate and detail what happened when you visited an MD

Tip five: Set a SMART Goal for what you want from any service providers. Here is an EFT blog post about SMART Goals.

Tip six: Strengthen your self-soothing skills. For a quick introduction check out these Emotional Fitness Exercises. For a longer last lesson, buy EFT’s Self-soothing To Create Calm in Your Life. It still costs less than a Latte.

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.

Katherine

Post Inspiration: This post was relates to this  WordPress Daily  Prompt: Seriousness.

Go here to learn more about the Daily Prompts.

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much.  Take their advice and mine carefully.  Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart.  Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others.  As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.

Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors

If  you need perfect posts, you will not find them  here;  I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what  like me.  Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability,  Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense.  If  you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.

Thinking About What Matters – All Is A Gift

 A poem about Gratitude
Emotional Fitness Training Tip
The more you practice gratitude, the stronger you and others grow.

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.

Katherine

Post Inspiration: This post relates to this WordPress Daily Prompt:   Lovingly

Go here to learn more about the Daily Prompts.

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Victim or Survivor – Tips to Move Forward.

Zora Neale Hurston Quote
A victim is someone  injured, destroyed, or sacrificed under any of various conditions; a survivor is one who lives on and functions so as to prosper.
Emotional Fitness Training Tips
Tip one: Everyone is a victim in one way or another.
Tip two: Everyone hurts others in one way or another. 
Tip three: Everyone is a survivor in one way or another.
Tip four: Realize no matter how seriously you were injured, so have not been destroyed. Be grateful.
Tip five: Neither deny or dwell excessively on how you have been victimized.
Tip six: Let go of blame-blaming yourself or blaming another. Blaming mires you in victimhood. Own up to your mistakes; learn lessons; work to do better.
Tip seven: Forgive others their short comings. Forgiveness means giving the person, not the act. Criminal acts must be punished. Forgiveness does not require staying in contact with an abuser, loving some one who has done you harm. Forgiveness means not seeking personal revenge.
Tip eight: Strengthen your self-soothing skills. For a quick lesson check out these Emotional Fitness Exercises. For a longer last lesson, buy EFT’s Self-soothing To Create Calm in Your Life
Tip nine:  Do more of what offers hope and comfort. For some that may be attending religious services, for everyone, it means practicing kindness and pursuing change civilly through thoughtful civic actions.
Tip ten: Remember what matters, be grateful,  practice kindness.

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.

Katherine

Post Inspiration: This post relates to this WordPress Daily Prompt:   Overwhelming.

Go here to learn more about the Daily Prompts.

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much.  Take their advice and mine carefully.  Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart.  Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others.  As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.

Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors

If  you need perfect posts, you will not find them  here;  I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what  like me.  Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability,  Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense.  If  you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.

How To Defeat False Expectations Appearing Real AKA FEAR

 Thich Nhah Hanh Quote

Emotional Fitness Thoughts

Think about the above and then think about how it applies to political, religious, racial ranting, even to peaceful protests. We share our fears to dilute them. Helpful when done in small doses and privately with one or two others.

Reality check: Everyone wants the comfort of knowing our fears are shared. However, when such comfort mainly comes only by sharing the fear, the fear grows.

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Tip one: Challenge fears with a safety check. Who is in physical danger right now? Not you unless you are sitting in a burning house and using your computer to call for help.

Tip two: Avoid what increases fear. Watch less news. Avoid discussions that only add to your fear or anger.

Anger is fear disguised – we fear being hurt and when hurt we fight or flee. Better to flee than to get trapped by anger into doing things that you regret or hurt others.

Tip three: Stay in the now. You cannot change the past or predict the future. Avoid situations that increase either future fears or past hurts.

Tip four: Strengthen your self-soothing skills. For a quick lesson check out these Emotional Fitness Exercises. For a longer last lesson, buy EFT’s Self-soothing To Create Calm in Your Life

Tip five: Do more of what offers hope and comfort. For some that may be attending religious services, for everyone, it means practicing kindness and pursuing change civilly through thoughtful civic actions.

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.

Katherine

Post Inspiration: This post was inspired WordPress Daily Prompt: Resist . We have to do what we are able to do to bring peace on earth.

Go here to learn more about the Daily Prompts.

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much.  Take their advice and mine carefully.  Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart.  Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others.  As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.

Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors

If  you need perfect posts, you will not find them  here;  I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what  like me.  Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability,  Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense.  If  you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.