Blog Update

At 80 time constricts and the to-do list grows. Sigh. Moreover, it takes longer to do what needs doing and cognitive aging interferes with productivity. Your likes, comments, and sharing keep me going, but I am not going to post daily.

Meanwhile, for daily tips follow me on Facebook. I have an Emotional Fitness Training page there as well an Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents page.  I try to post helpful articles on these pages as well as some laughs and a bit of inspirational stuff.  Thank you all for your patience and your support. You keep me going.

Safety Lesson To Reduce Needless Stress

When to call 911

“Care shouldn’t start in the emergency room.”  James Douglas

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Tip one: Make and use a Wallet Card

As those trying to help need to know who you are, who your family is, and a few things about your health; you need to have that information at your finger tips when the need to call 911 or a Crisis Team arise. Fortunately, in today’s world many health providers are giving away what is called a Wallet Card.

Wallet Cards say all that needs saying in a medical emergency including your name, contacts, insurance and relevant medical information. All adults in the family need to be carrying such a card; children should start carrying one once they begin carrying a wallet, purse or back pack.

If your health provider does not give you such a card, you can make your own on an index card. Contact and insurance information goes on one side; relevant medical information, including allergies, chronic health problems and prescribed medications goes on the reverse side. When I have made one for friends and family, I put a bright red border around the medical information it so it can be easily found.

Such information needs to be kept by your landline and plugged into your cell phone as well as kept in your wallet.

Some service providers also give you a copy of your most recent health summary. In fact, federal law says you have the right to a copy of your medical chart. So ask. My service provider gives me an updated summary at every visit as well as a summary of my most recent visit. I have copies of each in my purse and on my desk.

All family members need Wallet Cards. 

Tip two: Take a good first aid course

 

Start with the Red Cross.

Tip three: Educate family members

As soon as children can use a telephone, teach them how to call 911. Practice and rehearse such calls.

Thank you for all you do. Like, comment, or share. and help EFT grow.

Katherine

 

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

DISCLAIMER ONE: EMOTIONAL FITNESS TRAINING IS NOT THERAPY.  It is a self-care, self-help educational program. Therapy is about healing, Emotional Fitness Training is about strengthening.

Boredom Erodes Emotional Intelligence

With the start of school or the end of vacations and summer fun, boredom can creep into anyone’s life.  Hope this quick exercise helps you stay curious and excited or proud of what you know.

The following Emotional Fitness Exercises also keep boredom from eroding all that is good : Remembering what matters, Practicing kindness, Being grateful, Finding beauty.

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.

Katherine

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

DISCLAIMER ONE: EMOTIONAL FITNESS TRAINING IS NOT THERAPY.  It is a self-care, self-help educational program. Therapy is about healing, Emotional Fitness Training is about strengthening.

FINDING BEAUTY STRENGTHENS YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

 

EMOTIONAL FITNESS TIPS FOR FINDING BEAUTY

Tip one: Learn to look for beauty, here there and everywhere.  Find beauty in rocks., roots, and weeds as well as the more usual places.

Tip two: Be with beauty by looking for it, then when you find it, breathe in slowly, focus, hold, absorb, breathe out slowly, smile and say “Thank you.”

Tip three: Share your pictures of beauty. Send them to me in Jpeg format to [email protected]  Send only your own  the pictures. Include a note about how you wish to be credited.  I will use them in a blog post or pin them on my Pinterest Be With Beauty Board and let you know when I have done so.  Sharing is caring, caring is kindness and strengthens all. 

Tip four: Visit my  Emotional Fitness Training’s Be With Beauty Board on Pinterest

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.

Katherine

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

DISCLAIMER ONE: EMOTIONAL FITNESS TRAINING IS NOT THERAPY.  It is a self-care, self-help educational program. Therapy is about healing, Emotional Fitness Training is about strengthening.

How To Fret Less About Politics – Six EFT Tips

Funny quotes about politics

Apparently, the rates of clinical depression have increased since Trump took office. Sad, but even sadder are the increases in hate talk and fear-mongering that are now every present in all news.  I would worry less if such increases did not lead of the more unstable to acting violently. either against others or the self. Both remaining silent or and joining the ranting are forms of colluding with the hate. What to do? Try these tips.

EMOTIONAL FITNESS TIPS

Tip one: Remember that hurt seeks affirmation. Your hurts are magnets drawing you to others you perceive as hurt in the same way. As a woman I have been groped on the subway. Makes me more attuned to victims of more than groping. But rape is not the same as a grope.

Tip two:  Rating hurts helps. In the above example, a grope equals a five on a ten point scale of hurt. Best response – protesting at the moment, than letting go.  Verbal or sexual harassment is my idea of a six and needs you to take personal action. Anything above a six is probably criminal or violent and you should protest even if you are not the victim.

Tip three: A statue of limitation is also helpful. Some of my ancestors were Celts. The Romans started killing and enslaving them, then along came the Christians who finished the job. Should I hate all of Roman descent, all modern-day Christians?

The powerful black tribes in Africa enslaved and sold blacks first to the Portuguese and then to the rest of Europe and eventually to white Americans. Should those tribes be outlawed now?

One of my ancestors was a shipwrecked sailor who made it ashore in the late 1600’s. He may have killed Indians; I am sure he kept slaves as he sought a new life a new land. Should I be hated for his behavior.. Should Thomas Jefferson be pilloried and hated because like many of his time, he owned slaves?  Should he be written into history as someone as evil as those who actually captured and sold their fellow beings into slavery? Logic says no; but many still hate and feel justified in doing violence on that basis.

Tip four: Recognize and rate your flawed behavior. Is letting go of your anger with words the equivalent of beating someone up? If you are hurting others, particularly physically or engaged in criminal behaviors; you should be feeling bad about yourself.

Tip five: Improve your ability to forgive yourself and others.   Once a day, make a conscious effort to forgive those who have hurt you and then to forgive yourself. Here is a post about forgiveness and letting go. 

Tip five: Strengthen your self-soothing skills. My easy Emotional Fitness Exercises will help you do that. For a quick introduction go here Emotional Fitness Exercises. 

Tip six: Set both a mission for your life, and SMART Goals for living the best everyday life possible.  Practicing Kindness is the healthiest mission. Get my e-Book Know Your Mission So You Can Reach Your Goals . It costs less than a movie and lasts a lifetime.

Tip seven: Work to improve your critical thinking skills. Look for logical fallacies in your thinking as well as in other people’s thinking. Try finding at least three fallacies a day. The  Fallacy Ref adds a bit of humor to improving critical thinking and will help you learn more about false logic.

Tip eight: Whether face to face or posting on social media, mind your manners. Say what you feel needs saying, but never say it mean.

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.

Katherine

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much.  Take their advice and mine carefully.  Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart.  Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others.  As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.

Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors

If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here;  I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what like me.  Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability,  Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense.  If you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.